I recently had an intriguing discussion with a colleague
about success and fear of failure.
It boiled down to one question, “Can someone overcome a fear of failure
or any other fear and build the future they really want?”
Yes! But the real question is
how? How do you overcome
fears that keep you from building
the future that you really want in your life?
I spent the last five years passionately exploring this one
topic, professionally and personally. Wow! What I discovered
was simply transformational.
In the words of MasterCard - “Priceless.” The “pearl of great price.”
The answer was amazing logical and simple. Here is how it works:
Rhythm of Action
We all develop a rhythm of action (ROA) in our lives. It includes:
- How we
we do it
- Who we
do it with
This rhythm of action (ROA) creates the results we are
getting now. We call this our
Current Reality. Our ROA either
propels us toward our goals or keeps us spinning in the same place. If fear of failure is an issue we
develop our rhythm of action (ROA) to keep our fears in check. Or, we develop an ROA that always puts
us in a failure place.
Once we repeat the ROA long enough, we go on “autopilot.” We do things without even thinking
about them – instinct. If the ROA is based on fear, then we
organization our life around controlling our fears, rather than facing them. Two examples will help.
How do you react
when conflict happens? Do you become
defensive or submissive? Passive
or aggressive? Whatever you do,
you probably do it without thinking about it. It just happens.
Same is true with stress. In
a stressful situation what do you do?
Become focused or scattered?
Eat uncontrollably or, stop eating? Whatever you do, most of us do it without thinking. We are on “autopilot.” We may not be conscious of the fear
that is driving us, but we can usually feel it in our body.
Our ROA impacts
every aspect of our lives – relationships, health, career, finances, etc.
If you like where
you are, you feel good about your ROA.
If you don’t like where you are, then you must change your ROA to create
This is where it gets interesting.
The source of
our current reality and ROA is our beliefs – beliefs about
self, others, success, personal power, and how life works. We don’t act randomly. We act the way we do because we believe
certain things to be true about ourselves, success, personal power and lots of
other things. These beliefs drive
our ROA every day. If these
beliefs are positive then they propel us forward. If they are negative they usually have fear attached to them
and they become an obstacle to success.
Beliefs and ROA are directly connected. Building a new future means changing
your ROA. This requires changing
the beliefs that created the old ROA.
Core Beliefs &
Beliefs fall into two camps: surface beliefs and core beliefs. Surface beliefs are developed later in life because we tried
something and it worked. These are
relatively easy to change. There
is little emotion attached to them.
Core beliefs have been with us for a long time. We have identity attached to them. They may be limiting or liberating for
us. Either way, we see them as
truths. If fear is driving your
life, it is connected in some way to a limiting core belief. Finding, facing, and removing
that limiting belief is a key for future success.
Beliefs and Face Your Fears
Thanks to a friend, I discovered a way to find and remove
limiting beliefs (fears) and replace them with liberating beliefs that support a
new future. I was so intrigued
with this process that I applied it in my own life. WOW!
It completely changed my perspective, focus, and energy
level. Sure, it took work – real
change always requires effort, but it was worth it. Anxiety and fear were replaced with a deep sense
of peace and personal power.
If success is a struggle, limiting beliefs and fears are
standing in the way. If you dream
of a new future, but can’t seem to create it, the issue is limiting beliefs. Finding these beliefs and
replacing them with liberating beliefs that support the future you want are the
keys to success.
Removing Barriers to
What I discovered was life changing. Limiting beliefs are not universal
laws. They are simply beliefs that
we developed at some time in our
lives. They can be changed. To change them, we must do five things:
Apply this powerful process and you control your own
Living by Love
We are most alive and successful when we are driven by
love. When we love what we do we
put our full effort into it. When
we love someone we delight in spending time with them. When we love something we are more
curious about it. We work to make
it the best, whether it is work, family, career or something else. When we love ourselves we are at peace
and have a greater sense of joy and happiness.
When fear drives our actions, we are always “trying to get
there” – “trying to keep bad
things from happening.” It is a
reactive approach to life. Life
becomes more stressful than it needs to be.
The secret to building the future you desire is knowing how
to replace limiting based beliefs with liberating beliefs. Do this and the path to success becomes
clear. The energy to achieve success emerges.
Reality Engineering, is
a powerful process to help you build liberating beliefs and the future you desire.
Here is a real plus!
As I mapped this process I continually got feedback from professionals
(therapists, ministers, executive coaches, business leaders, and teachers) to
ensure that the design was sound and solid. I had to know that the process was sound psychologically,
methodologically, professionally, and spiritually before I could share it with
others. A unanimous “yes” was the
If you are ready to create a new future, Reality Engineering can show you the way.
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I finally have learned that I can control my
I would like for you to be a part of this life-changing
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Here is how it works:
Making real change takes a minimum of 90 days. We will guide you through these first
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Instead of getting something in the mail and then being on your own to
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Here is what it includes:
30 daily lessons that create step-by-step
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to take each lesson and then apply it.
This gradual learning approach enables you to begin the change process
in a way that it will stick! That
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Mastery path for the second six weeks to help
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A toolkit of practical tools that will help you build
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Daily emails that will provide both
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And, you have email access to me throughout the
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And, we show you how to identify and remove the
barriers that keep you from growth and positive change.
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I hope that you will begin building the future you desire
immediately. You are most
alive when you are growing and changing – pursuing your dreams. Reality
Engineering gives you the power to create the future you really desire.
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